Planning a wedding involves numerous considerations for brides and grooms. From selecting a date, securing a venue, choosing invitations, to shopping for various wedding necessities, the to-do list can be extensive.
One of the initial and substantial decisions is the choice of a wedding venue. In addition to financial aspects, size, location, availability, and personal preferences, couples must take into account the number of guests they plan to invite and whether the chosen venue can comfortably accommodate them.
One bride recently shared a notable anecdote related to her wedding, which has garnered significant attention. This incident is not about the wedding itself, but rather concerns the response card of the wedding invitations.
This story dates back to two years ago, during the peak of the COVID-19 pandemic when vaccines were not yet available. The bride explained that, due to pandemic-related restrictions, she had to limit the guest list. To prioritize safety, she made the difficult decision to inform her uncle, Uncle Dave, that she could not extend an invitation to him, as he had underlying health concerns. Fortunately, Uncle Dave was understanding of her decision.
Perhaps the same approach should have been taken with Aunt Edith, by not sending her an invitation in the first place. Apparently, Aunt Edith was in good health, and the bride did invite her. However, due to the COVID restrictions, the bride opted not to grant Aunt Edith a plus-one, inviting only Aunt Edith and not her long-term boyfriend, Danny.
Rather than simply marking “yes” or “no” on the RSVP card to indicate her attendance, Aunt Edith chose to express her displeasure with angry notes. She wrote, “Most Rude! + Hurtful!” and added, “You shouldn’t have sent one at all!” She also took it upon herself to append ” + Uncle Danny” after her own name on the RSVP card.
All because I didn’t put her boyfriends name on the invite
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The bride shared her aunt’s heated response on Reddit, and it sparked various opinions, with many feeling that the aunt’s reaction was disproportionate. One Reddit user expressed, “Invite who you want. Auntie may be hurt, but it sounds more like jealousy and taking away from your big day. You’ve got a lot on your plate, and you need family and friends who will lift you up, not cause you trouble and more work. I’m sorry that happened.”
The bride’s maid of honor also weighed in to support her friend. She clarified that Aunt Edith is the groom’s aunt and added that Aunt Edith “has been dating Danny for two years. Danny has played no significant role in their lives, and they have met this man only a handful of times. Danny is unpleasant and tolerated at best. They do not see him as an uncle.”
The maid of honor further emphasized that all guests had been informed beforehand that the guest list was restricted to the bare minimum due to COVID-19 restrictions. She also explained that, at that time, indoor gatherings in their area were limited to a maximum of 50 people.
As for whether Aunt Edith’s reaction was an overreaction, it’s subjective. While some may empathize with her feelings of exclusion, the context of the pandemic and the couple’s perspective on the relationship with Danny could rationalize their decision. Ultimately, each person’s opinion on this matter may differ, and the circumstances should be considered.
